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Boys need to know a lot of things
about girls. They simply do not understand some of the things that girls do, and
they do not understand the motivations behind those things. Some boys do not
understand that girls can like football or that “let’s hang out” is not a sexual
proposition. Boys also do not understand the female obsession with shoes and
handbags. All these points are things that all boys should know about the
fairer sex.
Just
because a girl smacks her girlfriend on the rear does not mean that a boy is
allowed to. A lot of girls are physically affectionate with their girlfriends,
but this should not happen with male-female friendships, except in a few rare
cases. Also, the physical roughness that characterizes male friendships cannot
be brought into a male-female friendship. Most girls do not enjoy being punched
in the arm or put into headlocks, like many boys do with their male friends. Of
course, some girls enjoy roughhousing, but there is a clear dividing line between
a good time and extreme pain.
Certain
things, when said, mean different things to boys and girls. For example, “Call
me” when spoken by a girl, actually means what it sounds like. However, this
does not mean to call right away. If a boy calls a girl right away, he may seem
creepy and stalker-like. Being a stalker is the last thing a boy wants to be
labeled as. Another example of a phrase that means different things to boys and
girls is “Let’s hang out.” To a boy, this often means “let’s make out.” When a
girl asks a boy to hang out, it is usually platonic, and does not involve
sucking face.
Girls
can like manly things, as well. For example, I like to watch football as much
as, if not more than, some of my male friends. I do not watch football because
I want to fit in with my male friends or for any other reason except that I
enjoy it. Many girls like watching football, as well as other traditional
“manly” things. I also take shop classes that are predominantly male, because I
like working with my hands. Another reason I take wood shop is because I think
it is a useful skill for the future. Helpless girls who do not know how to
hammer a nail or the difference between a Philips and standard screwdriver
might have some trouble fixing things around the house if there is no male
present. Not all girls are so helpless, and contrary to popular belief, girls
can use power tools every bit as well as boys.
Some
girls simply get along with boys better than girls and prefer to spend their
time in the company of the opposite sex. However, just because a girl is
friends with a lot of boys do not mean that she is fooling around with them
all. A girl can spend time with a boy without any ulterior motives, which is
something that not many boys can say. Personally, I spend more than half of my
free time with my male friends, and I think of them as my friends and nothing
more.
Boys
who are well groomed and well dressed are always attractive to girls. Most boys
neglect their nails and eyebrows, believing that taking care of these problem
areas is too “gay.” Unfortunately for these boys, girls pay attention to
details. A unibrow or dirty fingernails are huge turnoffs for most girls, including
myself. Boys who smell good are also attractive to girls. Clothing is an
important detail that boys are starting to focus on more, with stores like
Express for Men popping up everywhere. Sloppy or dirty clothes are highly
unattractive and show that a boy does not care about his appearance.
Girls
have some addictions that boys do not understand. One of these is shoe and/or
handbag obsession. Boys do not understand the purpose behind more than three
pairs of shoes and one purse. Most girls will say that three pairs of shoes is
definitely not enough, taking into account the different styles, such as
sneakers, boots, high heels, and sandals. Purses are essentially the same.
Girls need different purses for different occasions. A boy can simply put everything
he needs into a wallet and put the wallet into his pocket. Girls carry a lot
more necessities with them; consequently, they need to lug around a purse all
day.
Relationships
and communication between boys and girls would be a lot easier if boys understood
a few key items. Girls actually do want boys to call them, but not stalk them
via telephone. A happy medium is good. Roughhousing and physical contact should
also be kept in moderation, because no girl wants to be black and blue from
those affectionate punches the male sex enjoys so much. Not everything is about
sex with girls, because we believe that spending time with the opposite sex can
be much more than getting busy. And finally, girls can do a lot of things that
are stereotypically male, such as watch football or use a lathe. When, and if,
boys learn these things, interactions between boys and girls will be a lot
smoother and not filled with the misunderstandings that occur on a daily basis.
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